Please help me! i really need somone to tell me what to do i cant find her..?

Your Friend is probably with her family, spending time with them. She may be in the middle of helping her family make funeral arrangements. If you can go to her house, then do it. Have someone drive you. Start reading the obituary notices in the local paper, You might see where services are being held. If you know what mortuary the family uses, then call there and find out if they know how to contact the family. Your friend is reaching out to you, so I would do what I can to get in contact with her. When you do reach her, ask what you can do to help. This may be go to the services, so she has a friend to comfort her. It may be going to the house and help to prepare for the services. You can help clean up the house, since there may be many people coming to the house to pay their respects, it may be taking out the trash. After the funeral, ask your mom to help you make a simple meal for the family. Many families don't want to have to cook, so a simple already made meal would be welcome. try to think what you can do to help this family during their time of grief.